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A good relationship should be built on patience and understanding and one of such ways is to be a good listener, being patient enough to listen to your partner will result to less conflicts or misunderstanding, don’t get me wrong though, misunderstandings are inevitable but it is how they are been handled that can make the difference. Listening shows love, compassion and maturity, so in a relationship either partner has to take up this responsibility, you are reading this now so i guess you have decided to take it up so kudos. But you might say to yourself, am not a good listener or i just don’t know if i can, well it can be learned.

Here are some Listening Skills, to be a better listener

1. You must be patient

Without this you can never be good at listening no matter how hard you try, patience is a virtue in a conversation, it helps you get a clearer understand and perspective of your partner in relationship to what he or she is saying, funny thing is that, when you are patient enough you may be able to tell if your partner is lying to you or not

2. You must be selfless

Being a good listener means less of you and more of the other person you are listening to, so in your relationship you have to put the interest and welfare of your partner above yours

3. You must be non-judgemental and open minded

If you are judgemental, you will find yourself not being able to listen to your partner because at every point you will have something to say which will lead to criticism eventually causing conflict

4. You must be slow to anger and quick to love

if you get angry easily you can never be a good listener because anger will sabotage all your effort to becoming a good listener, fact is, your partner might say things that would offend you during the conversation so you must learn to keep your cool

5. You must be very understanding

One way to look at it is this, you must have an understanding that your partner does not have the understanding of his or her misbehavior or bad attitude, that way you assume the role of the more matured partner in order for peace and harmony.

6. You must observe and take points

If you have the opportunity, take down a few notes on paper or if not just put them at the back of your mind to ask later when you have the opportunity to talk

7. You must learn to ask questions

Doing this can help you can get a better understanding of what was discussed and asking questions proves to your partner that you are following him or her

8. You must learn to give feedback with or without constructive criticism


8. You must always be positive minded

Before and during the conversation, always hope for the best, be positive minded all the way, even when what is being said is negative, just give a positive outlook to counter the negative effects in the long run

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